Today is a rainy and stormy stay inside day…and you find yourself scrolling through Facebook as you come across someone very attractive and you think Wow…I wouldn’t mind getting to know that person. Well, time passes by and that person sends you a message through Facebook and starts up a conversation. Intrigued by this person, you respond and start getting to know them. It eventually leads to conversations on the phone and texting. You talk all day, every day and because of today’s technology you now find yourself face-timing, whenever, wherever you want. Maybe even experiment with Face-time Sex. That’s right I said it…Face-time Sex!!! You continue having a fantasized online romance relationship with this person, yet neither one of you have met in person. How is it possible to develop feeling for someone that you never met physically?
Some research suggest that chatting online first can have a beneficial effect on face-to-face relationships. In the “Relationship Formation on The Internet” study, the authors tested whether a group of students liked each other more after an online or in-person meeting. They found the online group was much chummier, in part because of the quality of the digital interaction itself. In short: The Web allowed participants to pare away interpersonal distractions and focus on communicating openly and honestly.
According to my anonymous friend, who we shall call “Thunder Buns,” who recently met a very tall attractive man who we shall call “Golden Cakes” through Social Media, has started to develop some hot steamy feelings for him. I say it’s more on the lust side of it. However, she totally said she could eventually fall in love with this guy. Fall in love??? What the hell? Really…how do you fall in love with someone you never met?
Thunder buns had to break down for me. She said, they talk every day on the phone, text each other, Face-time each other, even shower together…OMG now there is Cyber Shower! I suppose if I take a step back and look at it from the outside. In their own way, they are kind of dating on a daily basis. What I mean by that is when you Face-time each other you’re pretty much right there with one another. You still have your intimate moments, your comedic moments, your more personal moments and whatever else falls in-between those moments.
I suppose you can develop some form of feelings. And find out if those feelings will develop into love once two people physically meet in person. Because let’s face it…On a real date, both people have the luxury of not only looking but touching everything, hands, legs, arms, hair, smile, teeth, and most importantly eyes. Although, Thunder Buns said she melts every time she looks into Golden Cakes eyes!!
In person dating allows the people to eventually see where and how the other lives, from the neighborhood to the smell of the inside of his/her home to the person’s bed. There are a million little things that make us fall in love, and most of those aren’t present during an online situation.
In closing, there is nothing wrong with online dating, in fact it’s a great way to start a relationship. I just don’t think one can fall in love until you spend some real time in the other’s arms. So good luck to Thunder Buns and Golden Cakes…This will have to be continued. I think we will want to know all about the moment they actually meet in person and how they feel afterward.